“Sorry” seems to be the hardest word, as depicted in the
Elton John song. But on what grounds? On what basis? Is it really hard to say “sorry”?
Will I ever stop from referencing songs?
The common logic about saying "sorry" is that the
one who says it is automatically guilty of doing something offensive to the other
party. The first one to stay “sorry” admits his or her guilt over any issue. Although
it may be wrong to think of that, it may also be not wrong to do so.
Since we were young, we have already been thought of
apologizing for the wrong and awful things that we did to or have caused
others.
However, thinking deeper about the matter, saying you are
sorry to the other party just manifests the existing humility and courage
within. Saying you are sorry to the other party means that you are humble
enough to acknowledge that something wrong, or awful has happened. It does not
automatically mean you are guilty of the crime, it means you are guilty of
feeling bad for what has happened. Still, anyone can be humble enough to take
the blame. Not everyone will be courageous enough to be responsible for the
matter.
We should be sorry for getting things without borrowing
them, for having access to secure and valued things (or whatever) without
having the appropriate permissions to do so. We should be sorry for invading
the things we have no jurisdiction of.
We should be sorry for being late and wasting the time of
the other party, for being reckless and inconsiderate of others’ efforts and
limits.
We should be sorry and be responsible for the consequences
of actions that we have control over. We must not blame anyone (or anything)
else. Think of a "common good" resolution to the problem, instead of
an escape plan.
We should be sorry for causing disappointments and dismays,
to our friends and colleagues, to lovers, and mostly, to our mothers and
fathers. Man up and change.
Clearly, saying “sorry” states that the speaker himself is
disappointed and unhappy with the way things have occurred. It embodies the
initial desire to change the unfortunate turn of events into something that is
desirable and pleasing to the offended and/or disappointed party.
Saying “sorry” does not need a clarification or a clearance
that it is you who committed the deed. It only needs you to man up and have the
desire for making things better for the benefit of all.
“Sorry” will always be the hardest word but not until it is
said from the bottom of your sorry heart.
